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A Serene Space for Children

During our hectic, overscheduled days filled with play dates, sports practices, birthday parties, homework, and endless errands, not to mention the constant bombardment of electronic stimulation by cell phones, iPads, and hand-held games, having a time and space for quiet contemplation may feel like a foreign, but definitely welcomed, concept.  Katherine Lockett from Creative Playhouse wrote a guest post on Not Just Cute called “Creating a Quiet Space for Children” with wonderful suggestions about how to create a serene space for your child.

According to Ms. Lockett, having a designated space where your child can choose to take time out and be quiet and still is important for numerous reasons:

  • It gives your child a chance to refresh their mind and body – especially important for children who do not regularly nap.
  • It may help your child with focus and concentration.
  • It helps your child to develop an understanding of their own need to stop and relax.
  • It may help your child develop skills in managing stress and other big emotions.
  • It helps to prevent over stimulation.
  • It gives your child a special space for just them, helping them build self-esteem and confidence.
  • It provides your child with an opportunity to think and reflect upon his or her day, building self-awareness and promoting positive behavior.

Ms. Lockett also provides some parameters for how the space should be set up, and what types of activities should be included.  The room should be safe, calming, not too stimulating, appealing to your child’s interests, and closed off from noise and bustle.  When creating the quiet space:

  • Keep it minimal – too much clutter is not conducive to relaxation.
  • Use calming music or quiet audiobooks – or no noise at all.
  • Use low lights – holiday lights, mood lighting, flashlights, lava lamps, or glow sticks could all be good choices.
  • Include a few sensory toys like stress balls.
  • Make it cozy with pillows or bean bags and blankets.
  • Include anything else that you know your child would respond well to.

When introducing your child to their quiet space, explain its use and set some guidelines (like picking up after yourself when you are done).  You may also want to ask if you can sit with your child in their quiet space sometimes – you’ll connect with your child, model behavior, and get a much-needed break as well!

Although Ms. Lockett’s post may have been written with her toddler in mind, children of any age would benefit from having a quiet space.    Are you unsure what other activities might be beneficial to include in your child’s quiet space, or do you need more ideas about how to teach your child to relax and manage stress?  Kidtelligent can help!  The Kidtelligent assessment is a unique tool that not only gives you indispensable insight into your children’s personality, it also offers parenting suggestions and tips based on your children’s distinctive personality traits.  To learn more about Kidtelligent, go to, and follow us on Facebook at

Sarah is a guest blogger for Kidtelligent.  She is a soccer-playing, travel-loving, poetry-writing wife to a “go-getter” husband and mother to two high-spirited, sweet, and enthusiastic boys.  All of this “get up and go” makes her one tired, but happy woman, and she cannot wait to build some quiet spaces for her family!