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Six Tips for Raising Socially Intelligent Children

Today’s children are growing up in a world that is oftentimes difficult, confusing, and complicated.  Although some of the trials today’s children face are the same that their parents and grandparents faced – such as dealing with teasing, or desiring friendships – the omnipresent media has thrust our children into a world of adult mores before they are mature enough to process this world.

Fortunately, “healthy kids generally make healthy choices even in the context of difficult peer situations,” states Dr. Laura Markham, of Aha! in her article “How to Raise a Socially Intelligent Child ”   How do you ensure your child will make these healthy choices?  In her article, Dr. Markham provides these six tips for parents to help their children develop the social skills they need to navigate today’s world:

  1. Foster good social skills from toddlerhood on – this is one of the most important skill sets your child will ever develop.
  2. Support his friendships – talk about them, remember them, create opportunities to play.
  3. Model respectful relating – your child will treat others as you treat her.  Give criticism in private, not in front of others; help your child work out difficulties when they play together.
  4. Teach your child that people are important – model it from early on, praise it, help him brainstorm to solve peer problems, don’t allow your child to (intentionally or unintentionally) disrespect another person.
  5. Help your kids know how to repair rifts in relationships – teach your child the art of cooling down and giving sincere apologies.
  6. Understand and teach the emotional intelligence skills necessary in all relationships – examples include listening and “I” statements.

Dr. Markham’s article also gives links and related articles for more on Emotional Intelligence.  In addition, Kidtelligent can help!   The Kidtelligent Assessment not only gives you insight into your child’s personality, it will also give you additional tools to help teach your children the skills they need to be successful, based on your child’s unique personality type and interests.  Find out more about the Kidtelligent Assessment at www.kidtelligent .com, and make sure to follow us on Facebook at

Sarah is a guest blogger for Kidtelligent. She is a soccer-playing, travel-loving, poetry-writing wife to a “go-getter” husband and mother to two high-spirited, sweet, and enthusiastic boys. All of this “get up and go” makes her one tired, but happy woman!