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Treasure Hunts for Anyone!

Posted in General, Jane Kise, Kidtelligent on August 1st, 2013 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

Happy friendsChildren love treasure hunts, and scavenger hunts, and treasure maps, and clues, and…the trick is to devise something that they’ll love without too much prep. This one works whether you’re in a park or camping or at the beach or at many other summer stops.

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Advice for Introverted Parents Raising Extroverted Children

Posted in General, Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on February 1st, 2013 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

friends-in-huddleEven with all of its rewards and joys, parenting can also be incredibly draining – especially for those parents who tend toward introversion with a child whose interaction needs far exceed your own.  So how do you best parent when your child craves and recharges from interaction as much as you crave and recharge from solitude?  R.L. LaFever’s post “Tips for Introverted Parents Raising Extroverted Kids” is an article I’ve re-read and referred to several since I am the mother of at least one extroverted son and the wife to a very extroverted husband.

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Some Dos and Don’ts for Raising Your Quiet, Reserved Child

Posted in General, Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on January 17th, 2013 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

boy-intense-studyingIn this chatty, busy, extroverted world, those of us who are more reserved may feel at times as though we have a personality malfunction.  For a child who tends more toward introversion, trying to fit in to our bustling society may lend to them feeling a lack of confidence and sense of belonging.  In the blog post “5 Things to Know About Raising Introverted Children,” author Kelly Bartlett shares some ideas that parents can use to better suit their more quiet child’s needs:

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New Ways to Play

Posted in Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on July 2nd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

Have you been sucked into the world of Pinterest yet?  I personally have been trying to resist, sneaking in only a few minutes here and there, but I’ve been on enough to create a board of cute, inspiring play and activity ideas for my boys.    Sometimes in my few minutes of pinning ecstasy, I’ve found myself thinking, “Do I pin this activity, or not?  It looks so fun, but my boys really don’t like to do that kind of activity.”  Christie Burnett’s article “But My Child Doesn’t Like to Play ____” on childhood101.com  addresses this very scenario.

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Motivating a Child Who Says “I Don’t Care”

Posted in Guest Mom, Mothers Perspective on February 23rd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

“I don’t care.”  Those three words can fill a parent with dread and frustration when spoken by their seemingly unmotivated or underachieving pre-teen or teenager, especially when it relates to something as important as education.  In first of a two part series by James Lehman, MSW entitled “Motivation Underachievers Part I: When Your Child Says ‘I Don’t Care’” , Lehman says that the problem isn’t actually that the child is unmotivated, it is that the child is “motivated to resist, withdraw, and under-perform” instead of the alternative.  In essence, the child is motivated to do nothing, and he or she puts a lot of energy into doing just that: nothing.

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Discipline Disagreements: When Parents Don’t See Eye-to-Eye

Posted in Mothers Perspective on January 12th, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

Finding a discipline strategy that resonates with your own personal values and that is effective is oftentimes difficult enough, but if both parents can’t agree on a discipline philosophy, nobody in the family wins.  In the article “When Parents Disagree on Discipline,”  author Amy McCready discusses five strategies that can help bring both parents closer together on the discipline spectrum.  McCready’s suggestions are as follows:

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Tuesdays with Jane: Avoiding those Morning Battles!

Posted in Jane Kise on January 10th, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

If getting your children out the door to school and yourselves out the door to work results in everyone’s day starting on a sour note, structure may be your answer. One of the clearest universal truths in the psychology of parenting is that children thrive when expectations are clear. And mornings are a good place to begin.

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From a Mothers Perspective A “Good Parenting” Handbook

Posted in Guest Mom on January 3rd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – 1 Comment

According to Laurence Stienberg, PhD, distinguished professor of psychology at Temple University, “parenting is one of the most researched areas in the entire field of social science” – and with good reason!  Good parenting helps foster qualities like honesty, motivation, intellectual curiosity, and empathy.  It helps to protect children from developing abusive behaviors, as well as depression and anxiety.  The relationship between a parent and a child is reflected in the child’s actions – both good and bad aspects.  Additionally, parents oftentimes base their parenting actions on gut reactions, or on the same tactics and belief systems their own parents used.  Sometimes this type of instinctual parenting may serve both the child and the parent well; however, some parents naturally have better instincts than others and some may have had a harsher upbringing than they’d like to give to their own children.

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Filling Your Child’s “Love Tank” Much Cheaper and More Rewarding Than the Gas Station

Posted in Guest Mom on December 27th, 2011 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

Yesterday my older son gave me a drawing he lovingly created just for me.  Unfortunately, since the moment he chose to hand it to me was when I had just noticed my youngest son’s determination to lick his fingers that he had just stuck in the un-flushed toilet, I set down the drawing and darted to my younger son.  Moments later I had saved my youngest from E. coli (for now), but found my oldest in his room crying.  He told me that he felt like I didn’t love him because I just set his picture down without looking at it.  As a mother, this just crushes your heart, but I admit that I was a little taken aback as well.  I am not one who associates gifts with “love,” so I didn’t immediately understand the amount of emphasis he had put on his gift to me, or, in the words of Joline in an article about love languages on the blog Blissfully Domestic,, I was not being very “love-lingual” with my oldest son.

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Combining Your Child’s Passion with Their Talents

Posted in Mothers Perspective on December 18th, 2011 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

In recent years, a lot of emphasis has been put on honing the talents of “gifted” children.   For example, children as young as 2 ½ can attend soccer camps, and many high school students are taking college-level courses in particular areas of interest and skill.  But, as Craig and Marc Kielburger point out in their article “How to help your kids pair their passions with their talents” on the site Canadian Living, everyone has something to offer in terms of gifts – it is only our narrowed societal view that generally limits the definition of “gifted” to those children who stand out in academics or athletics.

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