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Schedule and Spontaneity

Posted in Jane Kise, Kidtelligent on June 12th, 2013 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

girl-fixingThere’s an old song about those “Lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer…” One of our children loved the lazy, hazy part—he enjoyed less scheduling and more opportunity to let the days unfold, depending on which friends called and what the weather called for and what interesting discoveries he made in the woods behind our house.

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Teacher Conferences

Posted in General, Jane Kise, Kidtelligent, Web Connections on March 7th, 2013 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

teacher-students-globeParents, teachers, students…it’s hard to tell who is more nervous about those conferences. They’re seldom long enough, and often not private enough, for deep conversation. So how can you get the most out of them?

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Being Your Child’s Confidant

Posted in General, Guest Mom, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on January 11th, 2013 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

Baseball Boy and Dad/Coach 2Recently I’ve heard a couple of my friends with teenage children say things like “As long as I don’t hear about it…” or “I just don’t want to know” when referencing situations in which their children may be participating, such as dating, sex.  Although discovering your child has been engaging in activities that may cause you to want to lock them away for the next 30 years, wouldn’t you rather have a relationship that allows and encourages your child to use you as a sounding board and confidant?   In the blog post “Ben the Person Your Child Confides In,”  Janet Lansbury shares six suggestions for building such a relationship with your child:

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Why Children’s Feelings Should Not Be Minimized: 5 Reasons

Posted in Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on November 6th, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

“You’re okay!”  “See – it was easy!”  “This isn’t a big deal!”  Phrases such as these might be at the tip of your tongue (or may even at times pass your lips) when your children are upset, whining, or expressing other uncomfortable or strong feelings.  I know that despite my best efforts, phrases such as these seem to have popped right out of my mouth when I’ve felt frustrated, tired, or annoyed with a situation with my boys.  But as parents, and by using phrases such as these, we’re just trying to teach our children resilience; after all, the real world isn’t easy, right?  Actually, using phrases such as these actually minimize our children’s feelings, leaving them to feel confused or helpless.  Minimizing children’s feelings may also lead them to try to figure out how to manage their emotions on their own, sometimes leading a child to hit, push, break things, or engage in other behaviors such as drugs and alcohol.   In the post “5 Reasons Not to Minimize Your Child’s Feelings” Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD of Kidlutions  offers up five reasons NOT to minimize your child’s feelings:

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Benefits and Techniques of Teaching Children a Second Language

Posted in General, Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on September 2nd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

One of the reasons on our very long list of why we love our son’s Montessori school is because it has Spanish interwoven into its curriculum in a very natural, everyday manner.  I have been thrilled to have my son share his Spanish with me (especially since I minored in the language in college), but his exposure to other languages has seemed to also prompt his interest in other cultures, in trying out new sounds, and has changed the way he views the world.  My younger son has picked up a few of the words as well, and both of my boys enjoying using their American Sign Language to communicate with each other and with us.

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A Serene Space for Children

Posted in Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on August 21st, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

During our hectic, overscheduled days filled with play dates, sports practices, birthday parties, homework, and endless errands, not to mention the constant bombardment of electronic stimulation by cell phones, iPads, and hand-held games, having a time and space for quiet contemplation may feel like a foreign, but definitely welcomed, concept.  Katherine Lockett from Creative Playhouse wrote a guest post on Not Just Cute called “Creating a Quiet Space for Children” with wonderful suggestions about how to create a serene space for your child.

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How to Handle Sibling Conflicts

Posted in Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective, Web Connections on July 22nd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

My sister is 15 months younger than I am, and although we had our moments of getting along like the young girls you often saw sweetly passing the syrup to one another in pancake commercials, our more typical interactions involved some sort of screaming, hairbrush throwing, name calling, or all of the above.  Our weary mother was consistent in trying to make sure we treated each other with respect, and insisted that someday we would be the best of friends, but I could tell that we really wore her down.  When I became a mother of two, I prided myself that my boys seemed to generally respect each other and get along flawlessly – oh, what a parenting professional I thought I was – at least until my youngest realized he could take toys from my oldest, and my oldest thought it was a fun game to try to convince my youngest to give up the toys with which he was playing.  I conceded that I was not the parenting pro that I thought I was, but I was also relieved to know that sibling conflicts were quite normal, and could be managed in such a way that it would not have to drain every ounce of energy I had.

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Imperfect Parenting

Posted in General, Jane Kise on July 11th, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

Does your child play in dirt and puddles (this is different from playing in germs!) As long as they’re in play clothes, evidence suggests such play increases creativity and immunity to germs.

Can your child safely build a campfire for roasting marshmallows (this is different from playing with fire!) Taught properly, they gain respect for flames and matches.

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Motivating a Child Who Says “I Don’t Care”

Posted in Guest Mom, Mothers Perspective on February 23rd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

“I don’t care.”  Those three words can fill a parent with dread and frustration when spoken by their seemingly unmotivated or underachieving pre-teen or teenager, especially when it relates to something as important as education.  In first of a two part series by James Lehman, MSW entitled “Motivation Underachievers Part I: When Your Child Says ‘I Don’t Care’” , Lehman says that the problem isn’t actually that the child is unmotivated, it is that the child is “motivated to resist, withdraw, and under-perform” instead of the alternative.  In essence, the child is motivated to do nothing, and he or she puts a lot of energy into doing just that: nothing.

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How to Parent Your Spirited Child

Posted in Guest Mom, Kidtelligent, Mothers Perspective on February 2nd, 2012 by kidtelligent@gmail.com – Be the first to comment

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had well-meaning people tell me, “Oh, your son’s stubbornness will serve him well someday!” as they watch him dig his feet in and stand firm for what he desires.   Although I can see how this may be the case, in those moments I just want the tools to get through the situation and to teach and direct my son to use his self-motivation for positive leadership as he grows.  I really don’t want to raise a child who doesn’t question things or who just gives up when challenged, but the power struggles that occur often between a spirited or strong-willed child and his or her parents can be a tremendous energy drain.  So what do parents of strong-willed children do to preserve these fabulous (honest, they are!) qualities while having their children follow direction and without “breaking their will?”

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