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Ten Tips for Coping with an Angry Child

If there’s one thing a child learns early on in life, it’s how to push his or her parents’ buttons.  Children seem to have an uncanny ability to say just the right thing when they’re angry to also get us riled up, often leaving us feeling out of control, exhausted, and defeated.   Anger can be a tricky emotion; thankfully, Carole Banks, MSW, gives some suggestions in her post “Angry Child Outbursts: The 10 Rules of Dealing with an Angry Child” to help us keep our cool and teach our children (and ourselves) how to deal with anger appropriately, including:

  1. Don’t yell or challenge your child when he or she is angry
  2. Don’t try to reason with your child when he or she is in the middle of a tantrum, tirade, or angry outburst
  3. Pay attention to your physical reactions
  4. Don’t get physical with your child
  5. Take a different approach with younger kids (ages eighteen months to four years)
  6. Don’t freeze up
  7. Give consequences for the bad behavior, not for the anger
  8. Don’t give overly harsh punishments
  9. Take a break
  10. Role model appropriate responses when you’re angry

In Banks’ article, she elaborates on all of these suggestions, and also gives links to additional related information that can be useful for navigating the challenges of parenting.

Another tool that is also very valuable in assisting parents with parenting challenges is the Kidtelligent Assessment.  This assessment gives you helpful insight into your child’s personality, and then offers suggestions and tips based on his or her unique personality traits.  To learn more about Kidtelligent, go to, and be sure to follow us on Facebook at

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